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I did highschool all wrong - czw., 08/14/2014 - 01:05
This is probably the raddest editorial I've seen in some time that I couldn't wait for a Friday to post it under my weekly musings. Leave it to W Magazine to raise the bar for upcoming September editorials. While less is more, the phrase "normcore supermodels" is an impossible oxymoron. My version of normcore is looking really confused in a Costco supermarket wearing Birkenstocks in a motherly way without any cool factor at all. And that is the solid truth my friends.

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Watch the Official Trailer for David Cronenberg’s ‘Maps to the Stars’ - czw., 08/14/2014 - 01:00

David Cronenberg‘s follow up to 2012′s Cosmopolis, Maps to the Stars takes a sinister look at Hollywood and the obsession that comes with the entertainment industry. It follows a typical Hollywood family chasing fame, including child star Benjie and his obsessive “momager,” analyst/coach father, and mentally unstable, pyromaniac sister, played by Mia Wasikowska. Julianne Moore plays an aging actress while Robert Pattinson stars as an aspiring actor/limo driver. The underside of Hollywood can be a dark place, and it looks like Cronenberg won’t disappoint with his take on the subject. Releasing in the UK in September, the film is yet to receive a US release date.

Watch the Official Trailer for David Cronenberg’s ‘Maps to the Stars’ is a post by on Highsnobiety.

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The King of Pop’s Newest Video to Be Released Via Twitter, North West’s Big Modeling Gig, and More of the News You Missed Today - czw., 08/14/2014 - 00:52

baby-north-sizedLeave it to Michael Jackson…
At 10 p.m. EST tonight, Michael Jackson will do what no man has done before. The King of Pop (or, rather, the Jackson estate and Epic Records) is set to release the music video for the new single “A Place With No Name” through the Jackson Twitter account (@michaeljackson), marking the first time a new music video has ever been released in a single tweet. [Forbes]

Iggy Azalea and Rita Ora do Kill Bill
Speaking of new music videos, two of fashion’s favorite ladies of the moment, Iggy Azalea and Rita Ora, unveiled their Kill Bill-inspired video for “Black Widow” today. (They opted for the old-fashioned way.) Click here to watch. Catch the two performing live together at the MTV Video Music Awards on August 24. [E!]

Baby North flies solo…
It was only a matter of time before North West kicked off her modeling career. She appeared in Kim and Kanye’s Vogue spread, but the 13-month-old has just scored her first solo gig in the newest issue of CR Fashion Book. She was photographed by none other than Michael Avedon, grandson of Richard. [The Telegraph]

Dancers, runners, and yogis storm the runway…
Activewear brand Athleta has just announced its debut on the NYFW roster. Don’t expect a classic runway show, however. Dancers, runners, and yogis will all be rocking the latest pieces from Athleta as part of a two-story installation, choreographed by Luam Keflezgy (who has worked with the likes of Beyoncé and Britney Spears) and styled by Zanna Roberts Rassi. There will be a media show and another one open to the public on September 3 at 6 p.m. Here’s an early preview.

Crazy health trend of the day…
A new study shows that 100 bites of food in the day reportedly “adds up to 1,700 calories and 1,100 for women,” and people who counted their bites lost more weight than those who did not. To track your bite count, the researchers at Clemson University created the Bite Monitor, which is set to be released in about a year. Until then, we’ve lost count at 15…or was that 56? [Refinery29]

Photo: Michael Avedon
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Three’s a Trend: Tavi Gevinson, Anna Wintour, and Opening Ceremony All Make a Play for the Theater - czw., 08/14/2014 - 00:34

10356422_453478591456179_8704378194508384963_n.jpg  ANNA WINTOUR MUSICALTavi Gevinson swapped blogging for Broadway. Anna Wintour is in a new musical. (Well, to be exact, a Wintour impersonator is onstage singing about Kim K. and flats. The Vogue editor in chief, on the other hand, is sticking to her day job.) And now Opening Ceremony’s Carol Lim and Humberto Leon are staging a play of their own.

If three’s a trend, then the theater is having a very stylish moment. We can only wonder who will be next to turn to thespian pursuits. Until then, we have the breakdown on the three fashionable fall shows, where to get tickets, and what you need to know about each of them. —Kristin Tice Studeman

Anna Wintour

Title: Ryan Raftery Is the Most Powerful Woman in Fashion

The CliffsNotes rundown: The musical about Anna Wintour, by Ryan Raftery, is centered around Vogue‘s Kim Kardashian and Kanye West cover. For the first time in her career, Wintour’s decision-making skills are questioned after the issue’s release. Of course, Raftery (who plays Wintour) took a lot of creative license with this one, basing most of the character around YouTube videos and The September Issue. This show is not sanctioned by Wintour.

Noteworthy: There is a rewrite of “Let It Go,” and Kim Kardashian is the main subject. “Let It Be” is now reportedly “Let Her Die,” reports. There’s also a rewrite of the Chicago song “Class,” which is now called “Flats,” where Wintour and André Leon Talley are in fits about the world’s turn toward more casual dressing.

Where: Joe’s Pub, 425 Lafayette Street, New York City.

When: It already showed once in July (Wintour did not attend, but her daughter, Bee Shaffer, did), and there will be another showing on Friday, September 5 at 11:30 p.m. (right after the Suno NYFW runway show) and Friday, September 12 at midnight.

Tickets: $20; click here

Tavi Gevinson

Title: This Is Our Youth

The CliffsNotes rundown: Directed by Tony Award winner Anna D. Shapiro, the Kenneth Lonergan comedy, starring blogger extraordinaire-turned-actress Tavi Gevinson, Kieran Culkin, and Michael Cera, “follows three wayward young people as they navigate 1982 New York, re-creating their broken homes in both their dysfunctional friendships and their bungled attempts at love.” In case you missed the memo, the Rookie online mag founder started acting and singing long before she started talking Comme and Kawakubo.

Noteworthy: Before coming to Broadway this fall, the play had a successful run in Chicago. Also, for those unfamiliar with Lonergan’s 1996 classic, it’s not the first time big-name actors like Cera have stepped into these roles. Back in the early 2000s, the play had a run at London’s Garrick Theatre, featuring Anna Paquin, Jake Gyllenhaal, and Hayden Christensen.

Where: Cort Theatre, 138 West 48th Street, New York City.

When: The show officially opens September 11, and tickets are on sale through January 4, 2015.

Tickets: $35 to $135; tickets are available online or by phone at (212) 239-6200.

Opening Ceremony

Title: (The project has not been officially titled yet)

The CliffsNotes rundown: Director Spike Jonze and actor Jonah Hill are cowriting the one-act play, starring actresses and models, for Opening Ceremony’s September New York fashion week show. According to WWD, the story line is “still being finalized,” but Hill will not be acting in it.

Noteworthy: As we reported earlier today, the play will be in lieu of the fashion brand’s normal runway show format. Jonze has previously done capsule collections coinciding with his movies for OC, including one for Where the Wild Things Are and another for Her.

Where: New York City, exact location TBD.

When: The one-time event will take place September 7.

Tickets: Not open to the public. Editors and maybe a few theater critics will be the only people lucky enough to catch this show live. Stay tuned for the YouTube replay.

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Nike Lunarfly 306 BEAMS Exclusive Colorways - czw., 08/14/2014 - 00:20

Japanese retailer BEAMS have snagged an exclusive release for Nike’s left-field Lunarfly 306, with a trio of bold colorways that match the sneaker’s outlandish design. With its signature velcro strap emblazoned with Nike’s iconic slogan, a highly supportive sole and easy slip-on wearability, the Lunarfly is the ideal summertime sneaker and is sure to be a smash hit with the Japanese audience and jealous sneakerheads unable to cop the exclusive release. All is not lost though, as word on the street is that the black and grey pair will be made available in the United States.

Keep an eye out for the sneakers when they drop at BEAMS.

Nike Lunarfly 306 BEAMS Exclusive Colorways is a post by on Highsnobiety.

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Modern Country House by Gregory Phillips Architects - śr., 08/13/2014 - 23:40

This substantial modern country house by Gregory Phillips Architects is set within twelve acres of elevated grounds on the banks of River Thames in Berkshire, England. The layout of the house evolved from a protected centralized courtyard flanked by glazed single-aspect rooms affording magnificent countryside views, inspired by traditional country houses with adjoining stable yards. This evolved into a restrained plan of generously-proportioned spaces surrounding a flint-walled, inner-courtyard linked by galleried corridors faced with timber panelling and stone floors. The contemporary flint-work used within the courtyard reinterprets the flint-work within the surrounding village, and in particular the medieval church that is within view of the property.

Entry to the house itself is made by crossing an enclosed reflecting pool leading into a double height space, from here the building is predominantly glazed to face the far-reaching views with terracing at each level. The gardens adjacent to the house incorporate an infinity edged swimming pool and a tennis court; the landscaping follows a simple, semi-formal layout which leads on to the extensive grounds and open countryside.

Modern Country House by Gregory Phillips Architects is a post by on Highsnobiety.

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Is It October Yet? We Have Our Shona Carter-Brooks Halloween Costume Ready - śr., 08/13/2014 - 23:01

shona carter brooks halloween costume

Yes, we'll admit it's probably way too early to be discussing Halloween but this idea is just so good we couldn't keep it to ourselves any longer. You ready for it? A Shona Carter-Brooks Halloween costume. Now for those of you asking, "Who the hell is Shona Carter-Brooks?" we have one simple reply. Click here. Aw yeah, now you remember her! And you're probably laughing hysterically because this is the most epic Halloween costume ever. And it's hella easy to pull off. All you need is a white dress--or an actual wedding dress procured on the cheap on eBay--a baby doll and some tape. Err, that sounds weird. The tape is to attach the baby to the dress. Umm, that's also kinda weird. But we couldn't make this stuff up--it actually happened. Click through the slideshow to shop some pretty money white dresses, plus a baby doll. And stay tuned for more awesome Halloween costume ideas cause you know they're coming. Be sure to check out the brands celebs love and this amazing apartment makeover.
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Lyle & Scott x Jonathan Saunders Fall/Winter 2014 Collection - śr., 08/13/2014 - 23:00

Following on from Bradley Wiggins’ Fall/Winter 2014 collection for Fred Perry, more and more heritage British brands are turning their sights elsewhere for collaborators. Scottish knitwear label Lyle & Scott has teamed up with fellow Scot Jonathan Saunders for a Fall/Winter 2014 collection. The premium capsule collection is comprised of carefully crafted knitwear, shirting and footwear all of which have been adorned with Saunders’ signature use of color, pattern and graphic and paired with Lyle & Scott’s 1960s golfing heritage. Stay tuned for the release of the limited edition collection this Fall.

Lyle & Scott x Jonathan Saunders Fall/Winter 2014 Collection is a post by on Highsnobiety.

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Summer siren: Moikana takes to the beaches of Portugal - śr., 08/13/2014 - 23:00

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The Algarve – that beautiful southern stretch of Portugal’s coastline – provides the most picturesque beach backdrop for Moikana’s summer campaign. Paolla Rahmeier is part siren, part modern goddess in a mix of swimsuits, floor-length high slit dresses and lashings of exotic jewellery.

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6 Recipes That Will Moisturize, Protect & Exfoliate Your Skin–All Using Vita Coco Oil - śr., 08/13/2014 - 22:51


Last week, the SHEfinds staffers had the opportunity to attend the official launch party for Vita Coco Coconut Oil, and what we learned about coconut oil is not what you would expect. We knew there would definitely be food made with Vita Coco's new product (which was great, because we were pretty hungry), but we were pleasantly surprised by how good it tasted and how healthy it actually is for you. I am definitely not a coconut fan and I try to avoid oil at all costs. I rarely cook with it, and I would've never considered putting oil of any kind on my skin (since I breakout so easily), but this event changed my mind. The flavor of the oil was actually quite tasty, but being the skincare/makeup lover that I am, I was more interested in coconut oil's beauty benefits. At the event, we caught up with Twilight actress Nikki Reed and celebrity nutritionist Keri Glassman to learn about all of the great things coconut oil can do for you. And after seeing how physically fit these two are and how great their skin looked, we were convinced that we needed to add Vita Coco to our diet and skincare regimen ASAP. Coconut oil is packed with lauric acid, which boosts your energy and is great for your metabolism, so don't be afraid to cook with it or add it to your morning coffee or smoothie. It'll help to keep you going and energized all day long. But if you're like me, and you're more interested in finding out what the oil can do for your skin, click through our slideshow and try out Keri's beauty recipes.



Vita Coco Coconut Oil ($13.95)

For more beauty products and tips, check out: Natural Deodorant, how to do a fishtail braid and the best lipstick remover.
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#NMWARRIOR CAMPAIGN FILM // NICOLE MILLER - śr., 08/13/2014 - 22:45

The NICOLE MILLER #NMWarrior campaign is here, and it was so amazing getting to film this campaign with my sister, Dylana Suarez. Sisters just being sisters. 
In between jumping into creeks with our skirts on, and speeding down the gorgeous roads of Connecticut, we had a very adventurous day shooting this campaign. I have fallen madly and deeply in love with the Nicole Miller #NMWarrior collection. It's inspired by female warriors, strong women, and fearless fashion. The bold prints, killer leather pants, and printed twinsets make for living that fearless lifestyle. Creating your own rules and taking the road less traveled. The feeling that "YOU DON'T HAVE TO WEAR A SUIT TO FEEL STRONG." Something that Dylana and I both live by. I wear what makes me feel confident. It could be that badass leather jacket, or fitted A-line skirt. 
So how far will you go? Show me your take on fearless fashion by tagging @nicolemillernyc #NMWARRIOR. 

Share our #NMWARRIOR campaign video on Facebook and Twitter to be entered to win a $500 giftcard to shop Nicole Miller. Be sure to tag @nicolemillernyc and #NMWARRIOR.
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Editor Obsessions: Saint Laurent Glitter Pumps - śr., 08/13/2014 - 22:30

saint-laurent-glitterEvery day,’s editors reveal their current obsessions—and where to buy them. Check out today’s pick, below.

Like most New Yorkers, I tend to wear a lot of black during the fall (not to be confused with “summer blacks”). So, naturally, I’m a big proponent of ostentatious shoes, as they liven up a noir ensemble. In my favorite color, these fuchsia Saint Laurent pumps have the two things I look for in any wardrobe investment: They’re edgy and feminine. Plus, the stacked heel makes them easy to walk in. My only issue would be trying not to wear them every day, because I like them that much.

Saint Laurent glitter-finished leather pumps, $845, Buy it now. —Rachel Walgrove

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Cinelli x Jean-Luc Moerman Fixed Gear Bikes - śr., 08/13/2014 - 22:20

Cinelli, crafters of some of the finest road bikes ever to come out of Italy, have teamed up with Beligan artist Jean-Luc Moerman on a full range of jaw-dropping new fixed-gear bicycles. While Moerman is best known for his work defacing photos of models and celebrities with hyper-intricate body tattoos, this collaboration exhibits an entirely more colourful side to him and his work. Across a series of 11 bikes in varying frame sizes the artist has been given free reign to apply a multitude of color to each component, resulting in some unquestionably eye-catching and at times eyeball-punishing combinations. While the exact specs differ for each model, only the highest grade components have been used across the board. For full in-depth details, click here.

Cinelli x Jean-Luc Moerman Fixed Gear Bikes is a post by on Highsnobiety.

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Garance & I - śr., 08/13/2014 - 22:00

After seven wonderful years, Garance and I have decided to split.

We’ve shared so much of our creative life (and more) with you, our readers, that we thought it was right to let you know.


Our mutual respect and admiration for each other have left us still great friends.

Our time together profoundly changed both of our lives for the better and I deeply thank her for that experience.


It’s a difficult time but we are both doing ok.


I will close comments for this post if you don’t mind.

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Alba Коллекция осень-зима 2014-15 - - śr., 08/13/2014 - 22:00
Модная обувь сезона FW 14-15 – это сочетание благородной цветовой палитры и базовых цветов. Особое внимание при создании коллекции было уделено декору обуви: цепям, перфорации, особой отделке кожи, принтам, шнуровке и металлическим элементам.
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Meet Diana Ra, The Designer Behind dRa (AKA Beyonce’s Current Obsession) - śr., 08/13/2014 - 21:56

beyonce diana ra

Last week we were so excited when we found out that the cute black top Beyonce was modeling in one of her Instagram pics was on sale for $25. But then when she posted another photo just days later wearing a tank by the same designer, we knew we had to hunt down the lady who won Queen Bey's heart. And so, we'd like you to introduce you Diana Ra, the crazy creative and awesome designer behind dRa (get it, Diana Ra!). Now that Beyonce's a bona fide fan, she's bound to blow up so we begged her to give us a few minutes to chat about how she got started and what went through her head when she saw 'Yonce wearing her designs. SHEfinds: Tell us a little about yourself and your brand. How did you get started? Diana Ra: I've been working in the fashion industry since 2004. Prior to starting dRA, I designed for companies like Arden B, Lucky Brand, and PJK. Having spent the formidable years of my experience in a corporate setting, the idea of having full creative freedom inspired me to start my own fashion line. dRA finally launched 3 years ago and it was a manifestation derived from the comfort culture synonymous with the SoCal lifestyle and juxtaposed with the elegance of a modern city, especially now with the steady progression of art and cuisine. Our line tends to coincide with these new movements by the use of prim prints coupled with signature structured pieces and vintage inspired silhouettes.

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One of Diana's mood boards.

SF: So, Beyonce is a fan. What's that like? DR: Uhhh… I die. SF: Has there been a moment that's really just made you feel like "I made it." DR: Seeing Bey in dRA was pretty major. I felt like I could drop the mic and retire right then and there. SF: Ha! On the flip side, what's been the most challenging aspect of building your brand? DR: I think that having a clear idea of who you are and what you are trying to project as a brand is very important and initially can be the most challenging. It's important to establish a concrete identity--not only for your target demographic, but also for yourself so that you maintain a cohesive collection signature to your style every season. SF: If you weren't a designer, what would you be doing? DR: I think maybe a children's art teacher.

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Diana's desk!

SF: What's the one item in your closet you can't live without? DR: It's hard to say! But on the regular, you'll find me in a white tee and jeans or an easy dRA dress. SF: What's your favorite piece from the fall collection? DR: I'm really excited to wear our Vinca vest! It's a menswear puffer vest that is such an easy piece to pair or accentuate any outfit. SF: What's been your greatest accomplishment thus far? DR: Watching the progression of dRA has made me feel so appreciative and elated at the positive direction it's taken. We're in some amazing stores that I would've only dreamed of being carried in 2 years ago.

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Some good ol dRa inspo.

SF: Okay, random--what's your favorite food? Where do you get it? DR: Sushi. My fave spots are Sugarfish, Sushi Zo, Hirozen and Sasabune. SF: And lastly, what your favorite vacation spot?  DR: The best place I've ever been to was Santorini, Greece. It was perfect in every way. Click through the slideshow to shop some of our favorite dRa pieces for fall. Be sure to check out this awesome apartment makeover, what we're buying for fall and Gwen Stefani's cute overalls. [Photo: Instagram; Diana Ra]
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Edible Chocolate LEGOs by Akihiro Mizuuchi - śr., 08/13/2014 - 21:40

Illustrator and designer Akihiro Mizuuchi has designed a modular system for creating edible, chocolate LEGO bricks. Chocolate is first poured into precisely designed moulds and then, once cooled, the chocolate bricks can be popped out and used as regular LEGOs. Although it’s difficult to determine exactly how functional they are, it seems like Mizuuchi was able to devise and build a number of different objects with his delicious creation. While there have been numerous attempts at creating various forms of chocolate LEGO, these appear to be the most detailed and well-designed. It seems like it’s only a matter of time until LEGO releases an official limited edition edible set.

Edible Chocolate LEGOs by Akihiro Mizuuchi is a post by on Highsnobiety.

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Watch the Official Trailer for Season 5 of ‘Boardwalk Empire’ - śr., 08/13/2014 - 21:00

Boardwalk Empire is yet another show looking to find both a thrilling and satisfying conclusion much like Mad Men and Sons of Anarchy which are also each scheduled to end successful runs as well. Following the teaser trailer which became available in late June, the first official trailer with the tagline “no one goes quietly” -  along with a confirmed year of 1931 – suggests that the roaring and often violent ’20s in Atlantic City and Chicago are giving way to a depression era where people are fighting for the scraps. The final season of Boardwalk Empire begins airing September 7.

Watch the Official Trailer for Season 5 of ‘Boardwalk Empire’ is a post by on Highsnobiety.

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We’re Totally Stealing Ideas From This Target Makeover For Our Apartments - śr., 08/13/2014 - 20:33

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Like every other woman in the world, we can't get enough Target and we pretty much stalk everything they do--including their new dorm makeover series. No, there's not one single college coed on the SHEfinds staff but that's not stopping us from stealing design inspo from the videos. The fourth and final episode of the series launches tomorrow, but because we're such diehard fans we got early access to the seriously sweet makeover. In the episode, Veronica Valencia, founder of Design Hunter L.A., and YouTube comedian Mikey Bolts, help a college student outfit her first off-campus apartment and holy wowza, the finished project is sick. Even at 30, I kinda wish it was my apartment. Click through the slideshow to see it for yourself. Want to get caught up on the past episodes? Watch below! Episode 1: Episode 2: Episode 3: Be sure to check out the best way to store your makeup, colorful home updates under $100 and our favorite lucite home decor finds. [Photo: Target]
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How To Meet A Guy In A Bar, From Someone Who’s Done It - śr., 08/13/2014 - 20:30

How To Meet A Guy In A Bar

I met my husband at a frat party, which is the college equivalent of a bar. I thought he was cute so I just introduced myself. "Hi--I'm Justine." (Literally, that easy.) Soon we were talking about the new N.E.R.D. album (Rock Star was his jam) and contemplating going on a liquor run. And before I met my husband, I met lots of guys in bars--not to be totally braggadocious, but I pretty much "killed it" in that scene. (And still do--I'm a great wingwoman if you ever need one. Email me!). I am an extrovert, so I enjoy talking to new people and in social situations I get as much of a buzz off of that as I do my first vodka tonic. I once picked up the hottest guy (sorry, hubby) simply by asking him if he liked the house band. It really is that simple (plus, guys love when you make the first move--more on that later). Now that I'm off the market, I have to live vicariously through my friends and co-workers who are single. I'll often ask them what it's like in the dating world these days, since everyone is on Tinder and I have no idea what that's like. Is it harder or easier to "put yourself out there" online? Do people love it or hate it? From the stories I've been getting back, it seems like it can suck sometimes. Or, like, a lot. Yes, everyone is on Tinder, but no one actually meets up with their matches for dates. They just mostly chat through the app, and very rarely meet in person. Wait, what?? You don't even get dinner or drinks out of it? That's the best part of dating! And there are more dating apps than ever (Tinder isn't the only one), so you would think that there would be MORE ways to meet cool people, but if you ask the average 25 year old, most wouldn't describe their dating life as "awesome" (or epic or whatever the kids are saying), or the guys they are meeting as particularly great. And the weirdest part, to me, is that some people still think there's still a stigma attached to online dating (even though everyone does it, and it accounts for something like 1/3 of marriages). So, if people hate online dating so much--why don't they give the old fashioned way a try? Here are my tips for meeting a guy in a bar, which I hope you will take with a grain of salt, because there is actually no wrong way to meet your soulmate (if you believe in that sort of thing). Dating apps are great, dog parks are great, intramural softball leagues are great. The list goes on. But here's how to do it with liquor and loud music involved: Keep your phone in your purse. Back when I was single, we didn't have smart phones--I literally remember texting on my Motorola Razr (sweet phone, btw), but I didn't have an unlimited data plan, so I probably was sending a few texts a night--if that. In those days our phones weren't even web capable, so you know what we did at the bar? We ordered drinks, talked to strangers and put in song requests with the DJ. We'd talk to the bartender if there weren't any cute guys around (which sometimes even resulted in free drinks. Ah, those were good times.) And you know what we DIDN'T do? Stare at a screen all night, checking our Facebook feeds or texting our friends or just generally pretending to look really busy when we were actually doing nothing. Which is what a lot of you millennials are doing. No hate, I'm just describing what I see when I do go out (married people like to get their party on too, y'all!). If you're a single person asking yourself "Why can't I ever meet guys when I'm out?" here's my advice plain and simple: stop Tweeting, Tindering, Facebooking on your Saturday night! It's not even that fun. And it's definitely not more fun than doing Pickelbacks. Put the GD smart phone DOWN and you might actually notice that there are hot and fun people all around you. In real life. IRL! Play darts. Or pool. Or shuffle board. Something. Don't be a lame chick and let the guys hog the pool or beer pong table--put your name in for next game. Play with a girlfriend or ask a random dude to be your partner. And don't apologize if you don't make the shot or act like a ditzy girl with no athletic ability. Genuinely try to win--and maybe wager some alcohol on it? Loser buys the next round. The point is--you're putting yourself out there, while genuinely having fun. Because darts are fun and everybody sucks at them, so there's no shame in the game. Have some great stories in your back pocket. This is like, socializing 101, but you should have some really epic stories in your back pocket on a variety of topics that you can pull from when talking to strangers at the bar. We Found Out Our Neighbor Was A Bank Robber (true story) or This One Time When I Was Backstage At Bonnaroo or I Once Was An Extra In A Gerard Butler Movie. Let's call these your Bar Stories. Don't push them on people, but you should have them locked and loaded should the conversation naturally head that way. ("Oh, look--there's Gerard Butler over there. I was once an extra in one his movies.") A good Bar Story has humor, a "you won't believe it" element, isn't too much of a downer ("And in the end, she died!"), and makes you sound really, really interesting. Okay? If it sounds like a tall order, don't worry, all you need is one or two of them that you can use over and over again. Don't be Debbie Downer. Do not talk about how exhausting your job is or how much you hate your boss or how the friend you came to the bar with is pissing you off. I'm not saying you can't have these feelings, but a person you are meeting for the first time doesn't know you well enough to care about them. No, he doesn't care that your college roommate won't let you bring a plus one to her wedding, so stop talking about it. But he does want to know if you need a refill on that drink. K? Girls can be wingmen, too.  What's that quote about how women would rule the world if we didn't hate eachother so much? Yea, the same thing applies to picking guys up at the bar. My biggest regret from when I was single is that I wasted so much time and energy being jealous of the attention my girlfriends were getting. I shouldn't have thought about it like a see-saw, like the more she was talking to guys the less I was. In reality, it's easier to talk to new people in a group than one on one, so having your girl by your side can be a big help not a hindrance (it's not a competition!). Know your friend's strengths and talk them up to the guy she likes ("Karen tells the BEST dirty jokes."). This will not hurt your own game. Trust me. Guys WANT you to approach them. They love it. In college, one of my best dude friends (he was one of those sensitive bro types--aren't they the best?) told me that he had the hardest time breaking the ice with girls he was interested in. He said that it felt like he was expected to make the first move, by society or whatever, but his fear of being rejected stopped him from doing so in many situations. For some reason, that really resonated with me (maybe because a guy was opening up!), so whenever I'm out with girlfriends I always try to remind them of that. Communication is guys' achilles heel. They aren't great communicators, but girls are (generally speaking here), so why wouldn't the girl start the conversation? Let me tell you--if you do talk to a guy first, you'll get major points (it's actually a major turn-on, according to my male sources). In all my years on the singles scene (ok, mostly college), I never once regretted approaching a guy first. And if you still don't believe me, ask your guys friends (or your brother or a male cousin if you don't have any). I would bet you a case of Natty Ice that they'll agree.  Just have fun.  Relax! There are lots of fish in the sea and you will find one. And if not, just think of all the perks of being single: more Real Housewives marathons, less Sports Center, more time for getting ahead at your job, more late night dance parties to Rihanna and Bey... I could go on. [youtube][/youtube] I want to know--was this helpful to you, single girls?? And those of you who are attached... how did you meet your significant other? Leave a comment below!
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